Originally Posted by
HardLessons 
Early this morning I sent her a long text. I laid it out as nicely as I could why I cant see her. Why me & my money cant help her. I was never able to help her. I told her I am not & will not help her get the train back on the tracks. She will have to figure that out herself. I said a lot but wasn't mean. At least I hope not. These are not easy subjects.
Not sure what her pattern is, if she’s the type to lash out and get vicious at something like this, or go all damsel in distress on you (I suppose maybe she’ll try whatever she thinks will work). But this person isn’t well. There is no “you” and “me”, and “your feelings” and “my feelings”. It’s just “me, me, me, my world and my needs”. Please be careful of thinking you can say something to smooth things out, and/ or have your feeling and needs be validated and respected. Thinking this can be the outcome with an unwell person, is a trap.