Thank you everyone.
I think it unfair too Mary, and which has me think she has a problem too. She has schizophrenia and the road has been long. She suffers major anxiety. Self medicates.
During my 5 years of sobriety I lived with a man who drank, and would not concede an inch, even in the beginning. I can remember my sister saying exactly as you have said. "Why does he drink around you when he knows you are trying to stop?" Answer being, he had a problem too. Mine was just a little more 'out there'.
I reckon I was used as the measure for what is an alcoholic. Not as bad as Steely, so I'm ok. Jeez.
Screw 'em all, they can all go boil in a vat of cheap wine for all I care now. I just really want and need sobriety. Nothing but good can come from it.