That history is also what kept me second guessing myself when he would tell me I was crazy. Or that the problem was me. For YEARS, I was able to trust him and his assessments. We were a good team and worked together. So when his alcoholism really started to take hold it was very insidious. I still trusted him to give me sound feedback, with my best interests in mind, because he always had before. It was a long and painful process to realize I could no longer do that. It also took me a long time to realize it wasn’t necessarily malicious on his part - his brain chemistry has literally changed and he is no longer the person I married.
saudade, thanks for your powerful post. This part in particular is so very true.