Ok. The next one to get is doing it (whatever positive anti drinking activity you may have committed to do, meetings, whatever) when you don't want to do it or think you don't need it. Thwarting the decision to stop doing it and doing it anyway. That's when lasting change may happen. That's when you start to let go of wanting-not wanting. It's like staring into the abyss and finally beginning to see it stare back. It's when you realise how important the meetings (or whatever, therapy, coping skills) are.