Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
your brother knows what he is doing.
your parents know what he is doing and are HELPING him out.
they are all fine with it.
you are not.
so what can you do that is not involve other people changing first and find some peace and distance?
I was wondering that myself, but it may not be as hard as I thought it would.
We had talked about going to the snow as a family, but just yesterday my mom told me that we might have to make separate trips (as in, my brother and his wife would go on a trip with my parents, and then me and the kids would go on one with them). I was pretty caught off guard, but said, "You know, I think that would probably be for the best." "Yup," my mom said, "I think your brother would say the same."
Honestly, it kind of hurt, because what have I ever done to him? I never lecture him. I stay out of his business (aside from asking him to not drive my kids while under the influence). But, whatever.
His wife is 5 months pregnant, too. What a mess that child is being brought into.