clowery…….what he is doing is called "Projection" and it is a common practice of alcoholics. They project total blame and criticism onto YOU...so, that the spotlight is off of them and they don't have to bear any responsibility for their actions. It allows them to continue to live in denial of their alcoholism....
And, it works for THEM as long as you (and others) buy that crap.
News flash-----a husband has more responsibility to the family than just financial support. They have the responsibility in the emotional state and atmosphere in the home, also. They need to be emotionally present and caring and compassionate.....and it is necessary to be an equal/supportive partner in all of the parenting activities....They need to nourish their partner and offspring.....DUH!
Do you provide financial support? Damn right you do!! If you got hit by a bus...and, he had to hire workers to do ALL that you do...he probably couldn't afford it. Just because you don't draw a paycheck, doesn't mean that you do not contribute to the financials of the family.
Think of all that you do to maintain the family and home.....they would all be lost without you.....
Receiving a paycheck, in no way, makes him more important or more valuable than you.....(though he may think so)……...