Hi, I am trying to do NC now with my XF. Which is fresh as we spoke even two weeks ago app. But those talks hurt i figyred, as nothing is suggested along the lines of any proper solution, so Im trying to fully detach now.
But holidays are approaching, so not sure whether to send a greeting card even. Anyone has the same dilemma? Also, I am remembering last years how we had celebrated together with families and friends and it just pains me once again.
Also, I feel guilty if I dont send anything, Even after everything he has put me through. I guess its because I know he is a sick man, so I fluctuate from anger to extreme compassion. We also said we will remain 'friends' (whatever that mights mean), so.....
Would you care about things like communicating around holidays or some other special occasions when otherwise doing NC? I know it might be a silly question, but Im not sure what would be right in that sense.
