I DO understand completely jen! I don't envy your situation in the least bit.
I didn't mean to come off the way I did - - just recently made the decision to walk away from my 2 A-brothers and my mom (queen of enabling) - guess my crankiness and bitterness dripped over onto you - - sometimes, I find myself writing what I think is a reply, only to discover that I was really writing to MYSELF.
Hang in there - I DO care!!
***hugs***
Blessings,
Blue