Originally Posted by
FossilHunter 
She said a lot of things that I would have loved to hear a few months ago. She also made me realize that she has never truly considered that I may not be in her life. Her sobriety is threatened if I stay in her life and if I leave.
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This push and pull in a romantic relationship is pretty typical: she pulls back and you long for her; you pull back and she longs for you.
Most of us in any type of recovery have to step out of this cycle of push and pull for at least awhile. Some actually find their way back to a relationship and some don't.
From what you have described Fossil, you are both in the super tough time of early recovery. No matter what either of you do, both of you are at risk of relapse. I hope you can both focus on your own recoveries, put days of sobriety together and get to lots of meetings. More will always be revealed.
Courage and healing to you.