Originally Posted by
FionnaPerSe 
@abgator thanks for sharing! It is sad to hear how anyone would not wish to save the marriage, especially if you were ready to give up drinking and work on your relationship!?
It was the opposite in my case- I was so eager to be there for him as a support, but he didnt ever wish to get help (he still thinks he doesnt need it), so instead, he got rid of me!? And I stood by him when literally no one else did!
Sad story
We went to one marriage counseling session after she filed. She did say I had to quit drinking. The counselor asked me if there was anything about her I wanted her to work on. I said a couple things as well. She literally said she wouldn't change, there was nothing she needed to change, she wouldn't even consider working on those things. The counselor flat out said to not bother, it wouldn't work.
The tale of alcoholism has no shortage of sad stories, whichever side of the fence you were on.
Good luck to you.