Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
i still suggest caution...........we can often feel like we ARE impacting THEIR behavior, when in fact, they are just hunkering down, coiling like a snake, waiting patiently to strike.
you have done amazing work to build a support network. keep that underground. stay safe.
Thanks Anvil...If I've learned anything after my 1st long marriage to an alcoholic who was into gas lighting and sometimes sexual abuse when he was wasted is that there is NOTHING I can do to affect change in someone else. All I can do is change me and what I'm doing. So, if push comes to shove (hopefully not literally), I'll walk out and move to another state where my dad lives and start from scratch. I've done it once, I'll do it again. That is my resolve.