Have you ever heard of the term "crabs in a bucket"?
Crab fishermen keep their catch in an open bucket. They don't need to cover it because the crab are all moving around, if one nearly escapes the others will drag it back down into the bucket. It's a metaphor for society and how people in your circles will try to bring you down if you start improving yourself.
This was one of those things I had heard about in the past but was genuinely shocked to experience in the flesh. This was the evolution of my sobriety as it relates to a lot of old friends:
1) Virtue signaling BS - "That is great that you quit drinking WTN. Let us know if there is anything we can do to support you. Call us if you feel like you're slipping."
2) Slight worry when they realize I'm committed - "So...umm...you're still doing the not drinking thing?"
3) Quiet simmering resentment as I'm progressing in my sobriety and life goals while they are still on the treadmill of an empty life
I cut them all out of my life and never looked back.