Your kids 'liked' you less because you were paying attention
You ended an abusive relationship
You took your own path and decisions independently of your mother's judgment
You became a better mother, an independent adult woman, just not drinking? I know for us not drinking is massive. But, 20 years ago I would have signed anywhere for this path into maturity and wise decisions.
People didn't like you less. You liked yourself more. Reading your post was a great motivation for me this morning.