I cared for my mother with advanced dementia for the last two years and also upped my alcohol intake to make life more bearable. It did not. I quit drinking a month before my mother died and did a medical supervised detox at home. It really was just being honest with my GP and her prescribing appropriate medication for a month. It worked wonders. I am glad the last month of my mother’s life I was sober and still am now 4 months on. You can do it.