Originally Posted by
Beachn 
The drama continues and I have decisions to make. I have been adamant that I would stand by her as she worked her recovery, stopped lying, came clean, didn’t endanger the kids, stopped doing wrong things behind my back. I don’t believe that is asking too much.
How many times have you said you would stubbornly stand by her as she proved over and over that she doesn't want you there? She wants to drink. Doesn't matter what she SAYS. Her actions say everything.
Originally Posted by
Beachn All of this after paying for weekly therapy, monthly psychiatrist specializing in addiction, monthly addiction specialist a town over. Plus twice weekly AA meetings.
Why are you doing all of this for her? Stop doing this for her now -- she doesn't want it. Focus on therapy for you and the kids. What about Alanon?
Originally Posted by
Beachn Found a secret Facebook account on her phone while she was passed out with all of the history deleted. No idea what she was doing, but the logins were every couple of days for over a year. I’m at my wits end with this person that looks my in the eye and tells me she loves me and lies her ass off.
Don't snoop on her phone. Just accept this: you can not trust an active addict, you can not control an active addict, you can not cure an active addict... and you sure as heck did not cause their addiction.
You can't change her.
You can change YOU.
You can and should and must protect the kids.
The kids should NOT be with her unless a court orders it and they should not be with her unsupervised!
What have you done for yourself and your kids lately?