I think fini was saying you can't pick and choose from the steps - that IS the program. Even then, the book says these are suggestions. That's one of the things that was a pleasant surprise to me; the phrase "we suggest" is smattered throughout.
Now people we encounter in meetings are another matter altogether. Most of the people I've encountered seem to prefer to think in black and white in regards to this stuff. Can't blame them - they found something that works and wouldn't change a thing in fear of losing it. And much of what they "got" is in the lexicon of group think. I don't mean this disparagingly in any way; it's more of a sociological observation. Helps me to try to understand people.
Anyhow, I think "take what you need and leave the rest" applies to what you hear in meeting shares. Those shares are from regular everyday everybodies, so the content may vary in relevance and quality.
Ok, I gotta put the rush on now - wish for the most healthy outcomes for me, please.
xo