Originally Posted by
Angel65 
I know I’ve done the right thing, but why do I feel sooooo terrible about it??
Who wouldn't. You would have to be pretty hard-hearted not to. No one likes to see someone hurting.
That said, you did do the right thing!
He is sad and angry, and very deeply depressed.
Well yes, however don't forget he is an adult and can make his own choices, just like you have. You aren't his Mom, you did not "abandon" your child. He could stop drinking and <gasp> go and get a job! Heck lots of people drink every day and still have jobs. How about that, how about working to pay your own way? He could be at an AA meeting right now. But that is entirely up to him.
Enabling him to carry on at your expense is not a worthwhile endeavor, it doesn't help you and honestly it doesn't help him.
So feel free to put aside that guilt and really, a period of no contact with him would be to your benefit. Leaving the relationship behind but having him tell you how awful it is for him every day is completely counter-productive (for you and for him). A simple - we can't talk for a while, would suffice.
Keep posting.