Originally Posted by
Beachn 
People keep telling me it’s the addiction, but how can anyone tell the difference between alcoholism and antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder? Is there a difference?
As gently as I can...does it matter?
At some point, it’s her actions and the damage they cause that matter. You can stay caught up looking for reasons for a very long time, because if you could find the reasons, you could maybe find the solutions, right?
Except it doesn’t work that way.
Mitigating the damage to first, your kids, and second, to you, is the primary objective at this point, yes? She’s going to do what she’s going to do. You can’t help her, but you can help yourself and your children.
Wishing you strength and clarity.