Originally Posted by
SmallButMighty 
His drunk behavior is affecting your life in so many negative ways. Not just at home, but everywhere, and every aspect of your life. How much of your day is spent worrying about his alcoholism and the chaos it creates? A whole lot of your energy, if not most of it, is being spent on something you can't control. It's so heavy and it's so exhausting. I remember it well.
Totally agree here. It gets to the point where your entire life revolves around managing his drinking. It sneaks up on you slowly though and gets worse and worse until you are completely obsessed and your mental (and maybe physical) health is deteriorating. That's not a responsibility you want to take on. Can't tell you how many times I thought, "ok, he's making progress, he wants to change, etc." only for it to get worse. It's a terrible rollercoaster ride and the sooner you can get off, the better.