Looking...….no new holes in the wall and no screaming at you, and name calling is a very low bar for acceptable behavior....
That is abusive and nobody should have to live like that.....you deserve so much better.....
The rules that apply to "normal" relationships do not work for alcoholism or abuse.....This is very counterintuitive to most people, unless they have had occasion to learn about this....
There is sooo much to know. Knowledge is power....
I am so glad to hear that you are going to seek help from the counselors for partners of alcoholics....
I think it will help you so much!