I get it, he says “I have a disease”
Your AH tossing this statement out in light of the situation reeks of misunderstanding on his part. When I admit the disease of alcoholism, I'm not using it as an excuse for my behavior but rather an acknowledgement that I have a condition that needs to be dealt with, treated on a day to day basis. It's not to be used as justification for being a selfish tool. It's meant to be positive motivation for deep, honest and permanent change. It's pretty obvious your AH isn't grasping that concept. That being said, kudos to you for not falling for his "poor me"" bulls**t. Practicing alcoholics love to pull that card out. Don't fall for it. Hugs.