Hi Dazed, I'll say that both of you are right. Let's talk about self-esteem first. Most people lacking in this tend to try to make themselves feel better about themselves by making someone feel like they are lesser. Now if a person that is lacking self esteem tends to feel better about themselves then they no longer need to try to put another beneath them.
Humility means a modest or low view of ones own importance.
To me they are intertwined. If you are feeling better about yourself, then you are no longer looking at your own importance and you can see and hear others in your life.
Just keep taking care of yourself and do what you need to do so that you can be happy. He can say whatever he wants to, but until he shows actions, there really isn't anything to think about.
(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
amy