Yes. A MEAN lawyer.
You’re out cleaning for his business and he’s parking his butt on your couch? Oh, no.
You need a visitation agreement, ASAP.
I would bet a ton of money that visit to Spain will never happen. It just works to make your ex look like a hero...too much trouble and money to actually do it.
Are your children thinking that somehow they’ll get you back together if they keep shoving him in your space? Do you have access to some kind of family therapy, because you all need help setting rules for a different life.
Don’t get me started on an alcoholic parent giving candy-flavored vodka as a birthday present to your daughter.
I feel for you, I really do.