Good for you. It’s hard to believe sometimes that it is not my job to lie for my XAH anymore, because it always seemed like it was before. And does it make him look bad when I tell people the truth about MY life? Yes. But the truth is mine to tell and if it means my social circle is closed to him, that is on him. If I ever did anything that the mere knowing of the truth made people not trust me, well, that would be my responsibility.

If you’d kept your mouth shut, you would be in effect lying for your ex. If it was a stranger you knew this info about you would surely have told your friend before she made a big investment. Some may feel differently like it is talking out of school, but to me, telling people I could rely on the truth has been lifechanging, because now they know I need support.