Originally Posted by
MLD51 
OK I understand the situation a little better now. So he is sort of your dad's carer then? That seems to be a pretty common story - you trust someone to care for a family member and then they take advantage of the whole family. That's awful. I can understand not wanting to do anything much about it until your dad is unaware - that might make him just really mad at you. Maybe if you just keep letting this guy know you are watching, he will stop it.
OMG NO..he is not my DADS carer...He shows up 1x a week and takes him out to dinner....he takes him on vacation 1x a year...My sister and I are main carers..I'm there 6-7 hours a day until my sister gets home from work (poor thing) and feeds him dinner and her kids....and then I show up next morning.
Carer? that made me so mad...but you did not know....lol