Living with active alcoholism is like having a tornado in
your house everyday. We are in survival mode trying to
stay sane and remain responsible and at the same time understand
what the ---- is happening.
When the tornado stops, it is like the people on the news after
a horrible catastrophe, wondering around thru what used to be
their lives. Looking around, picking thru things, trying to find
what is salvageable. Make your recovery a priority for you.
Recovery for the addict is an inside, full time job for a while.
Be kind to yourself, respect the pain you have been through, know
it's human to have limitations and live life as you are able. You
are not obligated to stay in the marriage, you also can take as much
time as you need to decide.