Hi Buddy,
It's frustrating to have a loved one with a drinking problem who will not get help, or admit they have a problem. Even more frustrating is the fact that there is really nothing you can do to get them to see this. What you CAN do, is get help for yourself. That's what Alanon is all about. Is there a meeting in your area that you can get to? You will also find lots of support and fellowship on this board. Welcome, and don't be a stranger.
Peace,
Gabe