Keep thinking thru it all like you are doing!
And, I was super (super) conservative on anything social, or with much more than just my parents (who were desperately glad I was finally getting sober). My first sponsor told me I could say no to ANYTHING and I took that to heart. So, many folks around here do trips or outings or weddings- and have VERY different outcomes.
Bringing it back to today is the best thing I can suggest
Oh, and when I went to work, ducking out of any convo for the smallest excuse was a trick I used a LOT when talk went to the kind of stuff you describe.
I don't know if it's on audio but Russell Brand's book Recovery is irreverent, hilarious and so spot on for anyone with any kind of issues (well beyond alcohol and drugs
). I'd add it to your list of learning for sure.
Stick with us. You can do this.