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Old 06-28-2019, 10:17 AM
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Hawkeye13
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I have had an experience similar to Sassy--what started out as forced, uncomfortable, and difficult form me in terms of "sober socializing" has become better than before when I drank.

The biggest thing is I listen a lot more and talk much less. I ask people questions, and follow up with comments and more questions, and actually focus on their answers, making eye contact, and really being there in the moment. I didn't do that nearly as much when I drank. I wanted to be witty, make people laugh, and that has become far less important to me in sobriety.

I think I have very few social connections these days, but the ones I have are actually meaningful and not as superficial. I like it better.
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