I also find being a single mom wayyyy easier than being a mother and the wife of an alcoholic. The latter job is too much to carry and took away from my ability to focus on my little one, and it wasn’t an accident (he was always demanding my attention, to her detriment). I actually decide I still want a second kid without a husband because I like my single mom life and I always wanted to have two. This way no worries about #2 ever being at the mercy of shared custody with an unfit person.

It sounds scary, but that’s often a lot of cultural noise. Even though some mothers have it better with a partner, I’d be willing to bet not many of them are on this forum.