Originally Posted by
dandylion 
How in the world do you plan to stay in the same house and maintain secrecy for years to come?
If you knew what was behind closed doors in your town, you would be shocked at how many other's lives are affected by alcoholism. And, you might be surprised at how many people already knows that your husband has a "problem".
Oh people know, sadly they all know. And you're so right here, I guess I'm just not ready to explain myself to anyone here when it comes to us separating. My friends who I've told back home I've been good friends with for 20 years, 18 years, and 14 years respectively. I trust them completely and feel very comfortable talking to them.
I am not a person who enjoys sympathy from others, I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me or treating me different because they feel bad about my situation. So it has worked well to sweep all of this under the rug here (this being the horribly embarrassing DWI situation) and move on with my life like everything is okay.