The alcoholic term is just a loaded word. I use it because it helps me, I don’t like being one (even though it’s undeniable) so I stay sober. The fact that I’d rather not be one does not in any way shape or form make me want to drink. I’m much less alcoholic when I don’t.
If it doesn’t help you, focus on your quality of life as a drinker vs as a sober person. What happens when you drink? If you don’t like how it always ends up, don’t drink.
Label or no label the end result is the same.
Lots of folks decrying labels within the younger population. Consider the term “bisexual” vs the term “pansexual.” The latter is a much more human, more sensitive term. Words we use to describe ourselves change over time.
Docs wouldn’t call you an alcoholic, actually. They’d put “alcohol use disorder” in your chart.