Thanks everyone. I wish we could have discussed all of this over tea and scones! Its been interesting so far.
I really like sasha1972s 'and also".
He can be very generous and also very self centred.
He can be very affectionate and also very distant, want to spend a lot of time alone and only interact when it suits him.
I don't know how much I can turn my feelings back on as I have turned them off so much to protect my heart. The window of opportunity is closing fast as I focus more on what I need.