My AXGF was so many things to so many different people... some saw her as a manipulative & controlling drunk... some as a hard working corporate leader... some as a “sober” daughter (yes, her parents believed her lies that she was sober)... some as a caring woman... some as the life of the party... some as not even an alcoholic!!

“Seeing the good” in her is honestly what got me stuck in the first place... and then, what justified me returning all those times.

Such a good topic.

With my ex, yes she did and still does have some good in her. She loved entertaining... helping volunteer with the homeless... loved children... loved gardening... loved dogs with a passion. But it’s not consistent... it alters with different people... and her alcoholism simply CRUSHES anything “good” in its way.

Addiction destroys anything good in someone, in my opinion