Seeing the good
I just watched a Ted talk about what you speak about someone is what they become to you.
She suggested we are hardwired to find the faults in people, and we need to look for the good.
So while nobody in the hotel room is awake, I am trying to think of what I could say about AH, and what I used to say about him to others.
It is really hard. There always seems to be a 'but...'
Perhaps too much damage has been done.
He is generous, but that needs to be more than just about money.
He is spending more time with us, but that needs to continue once we get back from holidays.
But...he is drinking heavily each night and doing that night after night after night means that he is shutting us out and hurting himself.
Not sure what I am expecting from writing this...just needed to get it out of my head.