I recall a member telling me after a meeting I was trying to run the show. That I needed to stop playing the director. But it was my show. I was the one paying the bills. Outside of not picking up that first drink I found much of what others suggest subjective. In this particular situation what I needed to do was get out of my comfort zone and change what I could . Then like it or not accept what I couldn't. Not easy and it never is but that's how I grow. .
With regards to members who babble on and on or get on their soapbox when this happens you often see members start looking at their cellphone.