I had a guy hounding me once...and I pulled him aside....face to face..and said listen...I am flattered that you seem to care about me and are drawn to helping me...however, I am here to FOCUS on myself...and I really need to keep that focus...I made a decision that this time in AA ....I was going to keep my distance from all people of the opposite sex and concentrate on my program....
He took it well and stopped bothering me....even stopped trying to talk to me every time he saw me.