Cryanoak-
For me only.
I was terrified for a long time of directness, both written and in person. I think I was afraid of other's emotions in any way because I could not sort out what was mine and what was not.
That was a sign of my dis-ease.
The healthier I have become the more I seek this out in relationships, of any kind.
I think I just want to say that for me on this board as I have been able to sort out yours or mine or both posts like yours have taken on a different value....and for me my response initially was more about me than you.