Thanks everybody for your replies, I really appreciate the input. The trouble with joining groups is that I'm constantly on the move traveling, I don't stay anywhere for long. I'm currently in Madrid and I'm attending Alanon here as well as looking for a therapist. If I don't find what I'm looking for here then I'll move on again.
It's great to have a resource like this which is available wherever and whenever I am.
Thanks all.
Peace