Intellectual challenging and picking about words only served me badly and kept me drinking for a long time.
This! This! This! I struggled for years in early recovery because I paid too much attention to words and sentences rather than the message that was behind the words. I was stuck on the surface. I needed to dig into the meat of what was being conveyed.
I make progress when I focus on how not why. When I look for things in life that I disagree with, I can easily find them. There are multitudes. When I look for things in life that I agree with, I can find them. Agree or disagree is about value judgements more than about solutions. How is about solutions. Why is more about value judgements. If I had to agree with an action before taking it, I would still be drunk!