Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
to be honest, i don't see his recovery as the real issue here. you sound VERY clingy and needy with someone you met THREE WEEKS AGO. this period should be called DATING not already committed bf/gf.
He was just as needy and clingy back with me starting out.
Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII somehow in three weeks you swooped in and "got" him a job - which is way not your job or role. that's trying to FIX someone.
I was trying to HELP. I've done this for a childhood girlfriend twice before and didn't see anything wrong with it, especially since his house manager gave him flack after going out to fill out a job application and look for work.
Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII i sense you are young and perhaps don't have much experience with relationships.
I'm 42 and have already had several albeit horrible one where the guys just use me.