Originally Posted by
secretchord 
they are going to plan a bunch of family things, send me a million group messages on facebook, and if I don't go/respond they are going to ask me a bunch of questions, call me a zillion times
This is where self-care is important. You don't need to answer every phone call from family members. You don't need to answer any phone calls for awhile if you don't want to. You need to do what is right to take care of you.