Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
i think it would be wise to talk to your sister about it. it would be very wise to have an escape route. protect your sobriety at any cost. if people get upset because you leave to protect your sobriety then thats their problem
Yes...I agree. I think it was anvilhead above who talked about making this the best day for my sister and I think there are two types of selfishness here. Destructive, choosing to drink. Selfish in that it really only serves you. The other is protection. I think this type is permissible. I will be selfish to ensure I don’t embarrass myself and everyone else and stay the course of sobriety. I love my sister and I want this to be a fond memory. And I’d like to remember it as well.