But the thing I have found to be much more disturbing than her excess drinking, is the way my life has essentially disappeared into this black hole surrounding her. I had tons of friends - I hardly speak to anyone any more. I used to write a lot of music and pursued many creative endeavors - I have hardly anything to show for the last year. She has consumed just about every living minute of my daily life.
Perhaps this isn't the person for you? When something drags your life down, doesn't enrich you, it's time to make a change because there's nothing anyone can say or do to stop an alcoholic from drinking. My heart goes out to you.