ugh Glenjo, I'm so sorry it came to that. That's traumatic. I am glad this is truly the end of it.
I hope if he ever shows up on your doorstep again that you just call the police and let them know he has been violent before and you would like them to come and intervene.
I agree that what you have worked so hard to achieve is not gone. If you need proof of this just go back and read some of your earlier posts, before you started work on this. Back then he would already been living with you, from the chocolate visit if not before.
Sure, you wobbled in your resolve a little bit but you didn't rush in. You considered what you need and that is your work in action, it's become part of your mindset now, that's really great.
I've resisted putting up this post for 3 weeks, the main reasons are out of shame and feeling like a fool.
I'm glad you posted about it.