Originally Posted by
Glenjo99 
I can never be in contact with this person ever again. It was all a sham.
Ugh, this is where the cycle can lead to. You have written the words I quoted at the beginning of this post several times in the past, so hopefully you will live by them now.
Did you press charges against the ex for physically assaulting you? It's great that you have friends who could stay in your apartment to protect you thru the first week, but guys like your ex do not let go easily. Next time he is in need, you will still be in his mental roledex as a potential source of sustenance. If he assaulted you once he would do it again. Getting the authorities involved can sometimes be the only way to protect yourself against these types of people.
As you see now, we can sink very very very low into our codependence, and our delusions and addictions re: others. "Hitting one's bottom" doesn't only apply to addicts.
Hopefully this time turns out to be your bottom. But that is up to you.