Originally Posted by
jjwinters 
It doesn't really work if they don't actually respect the boundary. It triggers all kinds of insecurity in her ....
Boundaries are for
us, not for our partners, to respect.
Nobody's insecurities and triggers can walk all over someone with healthy boundaries and healthy thinking. This relationship might feel like its happening to you because of her strong insistence on having her way, but you're co-creating it. We can't lose ourselves in a relationship unless we give our integrity away - nobody can take it.