" had that constantly when I was drinking, I never expected to have it in sobriety. I was thinking maybe I need to get out of self more."
ah; you figured you experienced this hole because you were drinking? and that therefore quitting drinking would eliminate the 'void' somehow?
my experience was that quitting and staying that way gave me the opportunity to check the void out, so to speak, to see what it might need to fill it, as drinking sure never did.
and i think you're on the right track with the 'get out of self' direction.