Okay so I have not been willing to consider dating and I am many years past my divorce.
I felt for a long time it was about another person, but I really think for me it was about trusting myself.
For me it is about if my "saving," button gets triggered and I am trying to rescue.
It is about my own recovery, and if I am still participating in it.
It is about if I can maintain boundaries with another with love.
It is not about necessarily what another's recovery looks like but if they have one, and if they can talk about it and are engaged in keeping it......and if they are engaged in me keeping mine.