Originally Posted by
Lunchbox1 
I had to write it and share it to make it real.
It's a good exercise. Sometimes when you are right in the thick of a situation like this it's hard to see the forest for the trees.
Your comment made me think of this thread I was just reading:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...nyl-abuse.html (Suspect husband of Heroin/Fentanyl Abuse)
From the outside, as observers, it all seems clear. Obvious drug use. However when you are looking right at at a person who is claiming "since he’s functional he’s fine. Always tries to parse down my complaints about his behavior" - it can be confusing.
Why? Because you care or did care about this person. Because perhaps prior to the substance abuse they were not liars or people who tried to downplay horrible behaviour, because at one time you had a relationship with them that might have been pretty good.
Who is this person that came to replace them, slowly?
Terribly confusing and troubling. That's another reason why it's so important to focus on yourself, your well being and looking after you! This separates you from the insanity that is addiction.